25th July – Routine

Dear Bandru,

Don’t worry it is not about your college and education. This is about our schedule and how amazingly cute that is. We have been together for more than three years and still every cute text brings the wave of feelings that is rare in a relationship that is as old as ours.

We don’t have a schedule, we don’t have that 9 pm call that every couple of our age has  we have a “I Was Missing You” call and that is a very amazing thing. We don’t love on a schedule, we love when we love there is no other factor involved in that.

Every time I see that #GoogleAllo icon up in my phone’s status bar, I get excited. Do you know why? It is because we don’t have a schedule, that text may be for letting me know that you are going to be late or even a random picture of you just because you felt like sending it to me or even just a long kiss to make me aware that you were missing me.

People say I love you once or twice a day, we end up saying it a thousand times a day and still we don’t get the feeling that our love for each other is expressed to our satisfaction and this is where those long kisses come in. I have a lot of friends who have the habit of leaning in my phone, all of them are always surprised by those long line of the letter “m”.

Do you know why it is like that? What we have was never imposed on us. No, I don’t mean that it was imposed on others or having a schedule is bad, all I am trying to say is we like being this way, we need this kind of outlet to our feeling to be happy and satisfied. We have been apart for a long time and that has done two things. One, the physical distance has made us more expressive with our words and has strengthen the feeling to a large extent. Second, we have understood how we strongly feel about each others company.

I am extremely happy with what we have now and I am sure it will always move towards better things.

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar.

Dear Readers,

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Thank you for the love,

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar.

 

23rd July – 

Dear Bandru, 

I will send the package tomorrow!

There are a lot of things in our life that we have no control over and I want to take them as they are and not worry about them too much, like how bad the food is there or how much you are annoyed with the people who set up an alarm for five in the morning but just don’t get up, moment when you reach college in a hurry to see the muster is not there or even when you have to stop the video call because data is ending, moments when we have to cancel our meets because of your or my college work, moments when we are not able to talk because someone else’s friends are noisy af. 

Take a deep breath and let these things go. Focus on what is in your hands like spending the time thst we have in happiness through whichever media is available, utilizing the extra time you just got in college because of going early to catch up, when our meets get canceled, use the time to work a step ahead to make next one a bit longer.

What I am trying to say is that you cannot chnage things that you have no control over so worrying about such things is a complete waste of your time and energy, spend that energy kissing me 😉 

Lots of Love, 

Bada Bandar 

22nd July – Anti Stressing Boyfriend

Your Loving Boyfriend can be a good stress buster too.

Dear Bandru,

I want to help you, not that you need help but I want to tell you a few things which may help you.

I have a list of a few activities that has proven very helpful in decreasing in my daily life borne stress and today I want to share that recipe for a less stressed day to you.

  1.  Five minute Yoga and a morning Hello with God – This will pump up enough cheerfulness to get you through the day.
  2. Breakfast – Most important meal of the day, cornflakes, masala oats, normal oats, Poha, daliya whatever you like.
  3. Looking good to yourself gives you confidence to face the stress that is about to get poured on your head.
  4. I know you are going to hate this one but this still works baby, a To-Do List.
  5. Your Smartphone, its not a distraction! It’s a tool honey! I can give you a list of few apps that can do a lot of stuff for you.
  6. Playlists – Every mood has a playlist, figure out what suits your taste and no stress will ever get to you with that awesome music playing around you.
  7. Now, last but not the least! Your Loving Boyfriend can be a good stress buster too, give him a call or a ping and that silly little entertainer will pop up and make you smile.

Hope you like this one.

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar

20th July – Am I

Am I too obsessed with you? I am maybe. But, is all of it bad?

Dear Bandru,

Am I too obsessed with you? I am maybe. May be it’s unhealthy, may be it will make you feel so irritated that you, out of the frustration will leave me,  May be it will make you the feeling that I am over possessive.

But,

Is all of it bad?

Why should thinking about you all the time without losing productivity be considered bad?

Why should getting jealous when you plan a weekend trip be considered unhealthy? I am hundreds of miles away from you, I haven’t even been to the lake in our city with you.

Why should me getting worked up for your schedule be considered so ugly? A better schedule will do nothing but imporve your productivity and life.

Hope the pros balance the cons.

Lots of love,

Bada Bandar

19th July- Attention

everyone wants to feel needed, everyone wants to feel that they are thought of by their special ones.

Dear Bandru,

Attention is  a great feeling and it becomes amazing when it is coming from your someone special.

Long texts, lots of pictures, old memories told back to you feels amazing! When you get attention from your special one, the feeling that they want you to be in their lives, they think of you when you are not around strengthens and this makes the very base of a relationship stronger.

There is a common belief that for a relationship to last long, one of the two needs to take a step back, be the calm one and I agree to it but this principle does not apply when you talk about attention, everyone wants to  feel needed, everyone wants to feel that they are thought of by their special ones.

I want to thank you for making me feel all that!

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar

 

 

18th July – Smile

Dear Bandru,

Just like the amazing picture you sent me a few days ago, a lot of things I do are to make my pretty girl smile.

The video where I am trying to spin a fidget spinner on my nose is also a part of the attempt. To be completely honest, I do not do this because I am your boyfriend and I should be the one making you laugh or smile but I do that because your smile calms me down, helps me relax and makes me happy again!

During our frequent video calls, every time I do something something stupid, you make a very cute face and that look for me has the strength to make everything right for me!

keep smiling my love, your smile solves a lot of problems for me!

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar

 

16th July-Distance

Dear Bandru,

The distance that is between us is extremely painful, every time I leave the house and see people around me I am reminded of us, you and the beautiful times that we have spent together.

I know we have talked about it a lot and have concluded that we have no control over the distance, we are away from each other for our careers, out future and I completely agree to it but it still hurts.

I act like I am all good but I am hurting all day. The point of revisiting this is, I can understand college, college events and hangouts with friends but the distance make me uncomfortable about outings and “other” things that even I have not experienced with you.

I know you have the “my life, i want to live freely” argument to this, I agree completely. You are free to do whatever you want in any manner you see fit to but I am not talking your freedom here, my point is the distance is painful and makes me uncomfortable about a lot of things and I really hope you understand what I am trying to express.

A relationship survives when both people take a few steps towards the other one. An understanding person can also loose in the relationship if the partner is an unresponsive one, I do not want our story to meet the end like that.  I want us be that couple that every kid on the street admires for their love story.

What I am expecting from you is to understand the fact that I do not hate your freedom but I want you to understand all I have here is your texts, your pictures and your memories to keep me company.

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar.

Dear Readers,

Thank you so much for the love. 1k hits will bring a series of changes to the blog to make sharing the love of Bandru and Bada Bandar with you guys simpler.

Lots of Love,

Banda Bandar

 

15th July – LOVE BANDRU

I have lost my optimistic attitude and now all I can see is a dark mirror in which I see myself as a cruel, lonely, coward selfish human being!

I don’t feel like writing a letter today, just going to pour my heart out today.

I have always been confident with my principles , even when my circle of friends started leaving me because of my principles, because I thought I am never alone, I always have BANDRU by my side.

Today, that confidence shook, I did a mistake in understanding my love, I never thought she would interested in some of the things I detest from the bottom of my heart. My principles, my thought process, my opinions have lost its only support system, leaving me a clueless, principle-less man.

Now, I won’t be able to get the thought that I am holding her back from living her life out of my mind ever again. I don’t know how are we going to get through this and if we do, we it all be the same?

My love for BANDRU is never ending and ever increasing but Can I be harsh enough to hold her back from living her life? Can I trample her dreams like that just because I am too coward and insecure to stand by my own principles? Can I be that selfish to make her suffer for my love?

I have lost my optimistic attitude and now all I can see is a dark mirror in which I see myself as a cruel, lonely, coward selfish human being who loved BANDRU, loves BANDRU and will always love BANDRU.

14th July- Good Things

Dear Bandru,

We have been through a lot of rough times, out of the three years we have talked only for two years and still we have come out of the darkness successfully!

We have always come out of the dark times and we are happy now. I have a strong feeling that the dark days are over and are not coming back any time soon! Now we have big happy times waiting for us in the near future.

Being together.

Being there for each other for every happy and sad moment.

Earning enough to be happy.

Having amazing food (wink wink)

Shopping together. (Very important)

Taking every single decision as a couple.

Last but not the least,

Being happy together.

Lots of Love,

Bada Bandar

13th July – Share

I hope you have YOUR BADA BANDAR in your mind in the times of joy and gloom!

Dear Bandru,

Everyday something or the other thing goes wrong with us, in our daily lives and when things go wrong or we are very happy, we are reminded of  the people closest to us because we need someone to support us and someone to share the joy with.

Every time a child is hurt, he/she calls for the mother, as we grow up we start to meet other people and at some point in life fall in love with someone and when we are with someone we start to get reminded of our partners along with our parents when we need support and we are looking to spread the happiness.

Every time I need support of a loved one, Every time I am happy about something two people strike my mind MY DEAR BANDRU and mamma!

I hope you have YOUR BADA BANDAR in your mind in the times of joy and gloom!

Lots of Love

Bada bandar